Replies to my January Post

Wow I had so many negative replies from my last post! It actually hurt my feelings a bit. I had 25 replies and of those, 10 were negative and cruel! One lady asked me what type of cookie I wanted because I deserved one- sarcastically. But the reply that bothered me the most was from a mom who wrote:  "After rereading the OP, I'm getting the feeling that the poster needs a little ego stroking or something along those lines.  So, AniLia, you are Super Mom!  Did you ever know that you're my hero?  You're everything I wish I could be . . . Does that make you feel better?" She clearly misunderstood my post, but that's just how some people's perceptions are. I know that between my husband and I, we tend to misunderstand one another until we can clearly state what we meant to say. There was another lady who took my post the wrong way by saying "And do you want a medal??  Who are you to judge others??  Why can't moms of 1 or 2 find "me" time??  They are single parents; they have no local family or friend support system that can help them with kids.  Everyone has different circumstances and you are ignorant to try and show how much better you are than moms who struggle to find a few minutes to themselves." I realized that when I put up my post, I wasn't as clear as I should have been. I wanted to repost or edit my post to clear the air, but then I thought that it would be better to see how others would respond. After reading the negative replies, I came across a reply that made me feel a lot better. Finally, someone who was more understanding! She writes, "I'm not saying whether complaining is or isn't helpful to some people. I was just pointing out where OP seemed to be coming from. You assumed she needed ego stroking; I assumed she meant to say something else. Only OP can know who is right or wrong in interpreting the purpose of her post. But, a question for you: why the sarcasm directed at OP once you assumed she was seeking assurances when you seem to be generally empathetic to "complaints" as therapeutic, or as pleas for help or advice? OP is no less deserving just because she makes a deliberate and conscientious effort to keep it together while functioning at a high level, right? And you can't fault her for not understanding that some people complain to cope. An inquiry into why some moms complain was the question she posed in the first place." It was definitely an experience for me going through this forum! I guess there are moms that can be there for support, some will lift you up or put you down, and some are there that could care less about how to help, but just a few. I'm not use to having a "support system" that gives negative feedback, which made it hard to deal with. However, I'm one of those that can be lifted up with the positives over the negatives, even if there's only a few!